First Date No No's

[sugarbabe2]

3 First Date No-No's

Contrary to popular belief, the priority on a first date should be more about not making a mistake rather than making a good impression.
Face it, the very fact that a guy asks you for a date means that you have already made a good impression.
Because of this, you don’t have to impress him; rather, your main focus should be to NOT do these 3 things:
#1 Don’t make suggestions; let him be in charge


Hopefully, you will never be in the position of a guy asking you for a date, and then showing up at your door and asking you the question every woman dreads, “So, what would you like to do?”
To be fair, the reason some guys do this is because they are worried about planning something that you don’t like. Rather than making a mistake in selecting the activity, they instead choose to avoid the risk of rejection.
Most, thankfully, know they need to plan the evening. If, however, you are asked about your preference, maintain your role as receptive female by saying, “I’m not sure, what did you have in mind?”
This will set the tone that HE is the man, and that it is his job to plan an evening to please you.
Don’t worry about coming across as a snob, witch or worse. If he is so insecure that he needs you to plan the evening, good riddance. Better you discover this about him now than later.
#2 Don’t pay for the meal


Regardless of what part of the world you live in, nearly every man believes that a clear sign that a woman is not interested is her insistence in paying for her own meal.
Now, many women have confided to me that they have offered (rather than insisted) to pay for their meal because they didn’t want to give the impression that they were selfish or just out for a free meal.
While their intention is noble, men don’t view it that way. Any first date is about a woman acting like a woman, not an equal. Leave the concept of fair at your work or school.
He didn’t ask you out because he wanted to spend the least amount of money possible.
On a first date, a man is more concerned that he can please you than he is about spending an extra $20-$50, I promise.
#3 Above all, don’t have sex with him



One of the fastest ways to ruin a potentially great relationship is to introduce intimacy too soon. Men are very driven to prove their power to themselves.
They usually measure this by what (or whom) they have conquered.
Frequently, when a man conquers something, he moves on to something else. Once the chase has ended, he becomes bored.
A wise woman knows that the more a man invests in something, the more he values it. Sex is a prize he receives in return for his devotion and commitment. The more casual a woman makes sex, the more casual a man takes commitment.


I found this article on the relationship headquaters website. I agree with most of the article but feel that so much pressure is put on the first date these days. I am also curious as to what guys think of a women if they have sex on the first date. So many of my friends say they end up ruining their first date because of nervousness. They either drink too much and make a fool of themselves or their nerves just make them look plain foolish.

[Thylacine]

Good shit. Sex on the first date is a no no.

[Skylab]

On #2, I'd rather the girl offer to pay even though she knows I'm paying anyway. Makes me feel like she notices that I'm paying and I don't HAVE to do just cause its a date.

In China the guys pay basically 100% of the time on just about everything. Poor Chinese guys must be broke as hell.

[sugarbabe2]

Ok but if a girl offers to pay doesn't that seem like she is too dominant. Most girls I know get offended if the guy doesn't pay on the first date and won't even consider going out with the guy again. It just shows that either he is not interested or that he may be selfish personality traits.

And if sex on a the first date is a no no what is considered acceptable and respectable by men?

[Cochise™]

On #2, I'd rather the girl offer to pay even though she knows I'm paying anyway. Makes me feel like she notices that I'm paying and I don't HAVE to do just cause its a date.

In China the guys pay basically 100% of the time on just about everything. Poor Chinese guys must be broke as hell.

You cheap bastard.

[Cochise™]

And if sex on a the first date is a no no what is considered acceptable and respectable by men?

Applebee's parking lot after the date.

[sugarbabe2]

Applebee's parking lot after the date.

At least make it a classy restaraunt....c'mon Applebees???

[Cochise™]

At least make it a classy restaraunt....c'mon Applebees???

Fine, Olive Garden.

[~Frankie~]

I agree with all of the above. If I'm sleeping with the guy then we best be exclusive....I don't like to share! LOL

[tomciz]

ive done all those things wrong and still gotten laid so take that stupid writers!!!!

[Skylab]

Ok but if a girl offers to pay doesn't that seem like she is too dominant. Most girls I know get offended if the guy doesn't pay on the first date and won't even consider going out with the guy again. It just shows that either he is not interested or that he may be selfish personality traits.

Nono thats not what I'm saying.. Of course I'll be paying however I think it's a nice gesture to just offer even if she knows I'm paying anyway.

[Thylacine]

Ok but if a girl offers to pay doesn't that seem like she is too dominant. Most girls I know get offended if the guy doesn't pay on the first date and won't even consider going out with the guy again. It just shows that either he is not interested or that he may be selfish personality traits.

And if sex on a the first date is a no no what is considered acceptable and respectable by men?


The classic rule of dating etiquette is like the third date or something. But really it's just a guide to show that either party isn't too promiscuous. You usually earn respect from a guy if you show restraint. Otherwise most men get the impression that this is a hump her and dump her situation... hope that's not too rude.

[sugarbabe2]

ive done all those things wrong and still gotten laid so take that stupid writers!!!!

Well this article was meant as a guideline for ladies who are looking for a relationship not just getting laid. All rules go out the window if you are just looking for a hook up.

[Cochise™]

Nono thats not what I'm saying.. Of course I'll be paying however I think it's a nice gesture to just offer even if she knows I'm paying anyway.

Pull up your skirt. Your panties are showing.

[Thylacine]

Pull up your skirt. Your panties are showing.

lol... This is almost a lesson in a guys guide to dating. Rule #1 Never be too nice. Off topic but a couple days ago I was eating at EROS Cafe on Park Ave or whatever in Rutherford. Great place.

[Cochise™]

lol... This is almost a lesson in a guys guide to dating. Rule #1 Never be too nice. Off topic but a couple days ago I was eating at EROS Cafe on Park Ave or whatever in Rutherford. Great place.

I live right down the street from there, def. a great place. Good brunch too. La Reggia a couple doors down is good too. Check it out.

[Fast Eddie]

i think another big no no is bringing up your Ex/someone u dated recently.

[Thylacine]

i think another big no no is bringing up your Ex/someone u dated recently.

LOL. That's the fast track to I'm deleting this dickhead's number and ordering the most expensive thing on the menu.

[Thylacine]

I live right down the street from there, def. a great place. Good brunch too. La Reggia a couple doors down is good too. Check it out.

Yeah I like to pop in to Rutherford every once in awhile when I visit my parents. I went to school down the street at St. Mary's High School.

[Fast Eddie]

LOL. That's the fast track to I'm deleting this dickhead's number and ordering the most expensive thing on the menu.

i dated a girl once for like 2 weeks (3 dates) all she kept saying was ur better than my last bf, ur nicer, he did this u do that, i was like bitch GTFO!

[Thylacine]

At that point I would have been like ok bye.

[sugarbabe2]

i think another big no no is bringing up your Ex/someone u dated recently.

Bringing up an ex is a touchy subject. It's def not good to bring up an ex when you first meet a person. However once you invest time in a person you are going to want to know a little about there past....which includes the ex department.

[martin]

girls shouldnt have to pay for anything unless the guy is broke or if its really too much to handle(like trip or sumthing), dates and stuff no way girl should really pay :)

[sugarbabe2]

girls shouldnt have to pay for anything unless the guy is broke or if its really too much to handle(like trip or sumthing), dates and stuff no way girl should really pay :)

Ha this is the most logical thing I've heard you say....LOL :good:

[Cochise™]

Bringing up an ex is a touchy subject. It's def not good to bring up an ex when you first meet a person. However once you invest time in a person you are going to want to know a little about there past....which includes the ex department.


You see, I don't agree with that. I really get annoyed with girls who want to know in detail what my past relationships were like. And I think it's because I really don't give a fuck about their past relationships, so why care about mine? I don't want to know how long some dude was banging you for before she met me. I don't wanna know how many sloppy dicks have bruised the back of her throat. Shit, I don't even want to know the length of past relationships, because the longer the relationship, the more freaky, raunchy and new shit they tried. If I think I am building something with a woman I could fall in love with, the last thing I want to picture in my mind is how many times her ex plowed her in that sexy school girl outfit you found in her top drawer, where she told you she keeps the whip. The past is exactly what it is, the past, and thats where it should stay.

[sugarbabe2]

You see, I don't agree with that. I really get annoyed with girls who want to know in detail what my past relationships were like. And I think it's because I really don't give a fuck about their past relationships, so why care about mine? I don't want to know how long some dude was banging you for before she met me. I don't wanna know how many sloppy dicks have bruised the back of her throat. Shit, I don't even want to know the length of past relationships, because the longer the relationship, the more freaky, raunchy and new shit they tried. If I think I am building something with a woman I could fall in love with, the last thing I want to picture in my mind is how many times her ex plowed her in that sexy school girl outfit you found in her top drawer, where she told you she keeps the whip. The past is exactly what it is, the past, and thats where it should stay.

Hold up....I said a "LITTLE" about their past. Those are pretty intense details you mentioned that can be done without.

[Cochise™]

Hold up....I said a "LITTLE" about their past. Those are pretty intense details you mentioned that can be done without.

My point is, that I don't want to know even the slightest detail that might send my brain into thoughts of lengthy doggy style sessions. I don't want to know names, amount of sexual partners, your first, ur longest relationship, nothing. I honestly don't see how either party benefits? If you start a new relationship, it should be about the two of you not about the past. Asking about past relationships just shows that you have a "strategy" for love and not completely giving your self to love. It's the first step to not trusting eachother. What can really be gained that is beneficial to the progression of a loving relationship with info on the ex's? Please answer me that, what will be gained? And if your setence starts with "getting to know the person better" save it, because ur trying to find out dirt, to see wether you should give this a chance or not. And thats not love.

[sugarbabe2]

My point is, that I don't want to know even the slightest detail that might send my brain into thoughts of lengthy doggy style sessions. I don't want to know names, amount of sexual partners, your first, ur longest relationship, nothing. I honestly don't see how either party benefits? If you start a new relationship, it should be about the two of you not about the past. Asking about past relationships just shows that you have a "strategy" for love and not completely giving your self to love. It's the first step to not trusting eachother. What can really be gained that is beneficial to the progression of a loving relationship with info on the ex's? Please answer me that, what will be gained? And if your setence starts with "getting to know the person better" save it, because ur trying to find out dirt, to see wether you should give this a chance or not. And thats not love.

Very good point....I don't really have a rebutle against this one.

[Cochise™]

I will now leave to the Mens forum.

[dolcecorazon]

First date No No- If you're at a place with alcohol, don't turn into a drunk messy mess. :tongue2:

[dolcecorazon]

Wait till date 2 at least :rofl

[sugarbabe2]

Wait till date 2 at least :rofl

Date 2 seems to be the standard for many people.

[martin]

most of the things i write about on wat i learned today actually happened lolz :)

[tomciz]

My point is, that I don't want to know even the slightest detail that might send my brain into thoughts of lengthy doggy style sessions. I don't want to know names, amount of sexual partners, your first, ur longest relationship, nothing. I honestly don't see how either party benefits? If you start a new relationship, it should be about the two of you not about the past. Asking about past relationships just shows that you have a "strategy" for love and not completely giving your self to love. It's the first step to not trusting eachother. What can really be gained that is beneficial to the progression of a loving relationship with info on the ex's? Please answer me that, what will be gained? And if your setence starts with "getting to know the person better" save it, because ur trying to find out dirt, to see wether you should give this a chance or not. And thats not love.

who cares if i know about the past or not....personally i could give a shit about how many cocks she has had anywhere...unless shes done like porn or like 9 gangbangs its really not gonna change my feelings to much and thats the kinda shit id like to find out about before i wifey a bitch and take her to my familys dinner party and unlcle remus recognizes her from backdoor gangbangs vol 17...so yea i guess in imaginary land ppl would be able to never bring up the past but in the real world shit usually comes up and i like to gauge the lvl of crazy i can expect from a bitch if we happen to break up...if i found out she shanked her last 4 boyfriends thats information i can use

[ArGroxwel]

Ha this is the most logical thing I've heard you say....LOL :good:


BECAUSE HE'S A WUSS.



no'mam shirt will be worn next time you see me.

[Dropkick]

no'mam shirt will be worn next time you see me.


lol

[Cochise™]

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